Wafa ya Bewafaa???

0700 hrs. on Mumbai Bangalore Highway.
Kareena Kapoor: main tumhe hamesha ke liye chhod ke ja rahi hoon. ab yeh wafa hain ya bewafa tum tai karo.
not the best time to see a movie (0700 hrs) but then travelling in the bus from pune to bangalore i had to see it. and of all the movies "bewafaa" but then once again no choice in that too. i would like to clarify that this is in no way a review of the movie but a insight into the indian mentality based on the story of this movie.

first the brief story. a guy and gal are in love but her parents are not exactly open to the idea. her sister is ok with it but then she dies when she gives birth to twins. now the "family" requests the gal to marry the sister's husband so that she can "nurture" the kids. "rising to the occasion" the girl marries her sister's husband and life goes on. he ignores her for 3 years and then she is now longing for some love. coincidentally she meets old love and the fire of "love" is rekindled but then they run into some problems when her husband (prev. her sister's husband) comes to know abt this. things are kept in front of the gal and then she says the dialogue written above. and thus ends the movie.

not a wonderfully gripping story but nevertheless had pretty good box office collections. the issue to be discussed is this that the gal marries her sister's husband (obv. after her sister's death :) ) and makes a "tyag" of her feelings for raising her sis's kids. now the question to be asked is that would she love the children less if she were to raise the kids as their aunt; and was it necessary to marry her sister's husband for the kids. the logical answer to the question to be NO. but then mr. dharmesh darshan (the honourable director of the movie) differs and creates a mess of a simple story. the fact that the movie had reasonable success and people were akin to the ending shows the utter lack of "out of box" solutions to family problems. well even the great family movie maker mr. suraj barjatya thought of this (obv. in hum aapke hain kaun) makes the story of the movie even more ridiculous.

the whole argument behind the prev. para was that indian families are too rigid in their approaches and lack a great deal of inventive thinking. also it makes a ridicule of the whole system of marriage which itself is based on a sacrifice made by the girl (or guy depending on the situation). the result is obviously disaster. but then as people get disgusted with their arrangment they do something they wanted to do but then its too late then. and suddenly all hell breaks loose because "uske sanskar" do not allow her to do it..

another perspective to the whole thing is a recent movie i saw i.e. pyar main twist (i canned this blog but then came back writing this when i saw a picture with differing views) this was a wonderful depiction of how people feel when they reached their retirement and sometime they live for "themselves" (ofcourse for a change).

anyways whatever the arguments Ms. Ayn Rand wouldnt be very happy with these as they invovle too many sacrifices and "living for others" kind of things...

atlast would like to say that its hard time that people start living for themselves. its not bad to be selfish because everyone is. going the ayn rand way would obviously be difficult but then living for the society is completely ridiculous (remember peter keating guys..:))...
kullu

disclaimer: this blog is written in parts. if you feel some parts are out of place then probably you are right :D